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Life has a weird way of making the most amazing people feel like they’re not good enough. You know, not smart enough, pretty enough, or skinny enough. The Drop the BS podcast is dedicated to inspiring you through those moments. In each episode, seasoned therapist Dr. Kirleen Neely will take you in session to learn the tools you need to drop your backstory and live your best today story.306221
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Parenting can often feel overwhelming, with many parents questioning their judgment and wondering if they're getting it right. A study by Psychology Today found that nearly 70% of parents frequently worry about whether they're making the right decisions. While there is no definitive parenting handbook, there are best practices that can help navigat…
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In today's episode, we dive into the heart of building healthier relationships by exploring the concept of "like who likes you." Many of us find ourselves chasing after unreciprocated affection or approval, often investing time and energy in relationships that don't truly value us. It's time to shift our focus to those who genuinely appreciate us a…
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In today's episode we are diving into the heart of mindset – a topic that touches every aspect of our lives. What exactly does mindset entail, and why does it matter so much for our mental well-being? Join us as we explore real-life stories and practical insights that shed light on the power of our thoughts and beliefs.Get ready to connect with the…
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In this episode focused on Fearless Living, we dive deep into the world of fear and phobias, exploring how they can impact our lives and hinder us from living to our fullest potential. Join us as we unravel real-life stories and practical strategies to overcome these challenges and reclaim control of our lives. From understanding the difference bet…
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Ever found yourself suddenly overwhelmed by emotions from the past? It's like a tidal wave crashing into your present moment. In our latest episode, "Backstory Triggers," we dive deep into the powerful impact of unresolved experiences from the past resurfacing in your life. Learn why "If it's hysterical, it's probably historical." Understand the or…
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Have you ever questioned your role in this dance of love, or observed your partner sending mixed signals? In this episode, we will delve into the intriguing dynamic of the "runner-chaser" phenomenon that many individuals find themselves in. The chaser typically takes on the role of initiator, pushing for the relationship and yearning for love and a…
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🎙️ Ready to Crush Success Blocks? Join us in the latest episode of "Crushing Success Blocks" on the Drop the BS podcast, where we unpack strategies to overcome emotional hurdles and pave the way for triumph. From challenging emotional avoidance to detoxing catastrophizing, discover how to master your mindset for success. Key Takeaways: Emotional In…
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Welcome to season six on Drop the BS podcast, where we dive deep into the delicate threads of family dynamics. In today's episode, we unravel the powerful narrative of forgiveness and healing, especially when family wounds cast a shadow over the joyous holiday season. Here's the episode at a glance: [2:35] Stroy from the Couch [08:16] On the Couch …
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Breaking up with a best friend can feel just as painful as splitting up with your partner. And while everyone acknowledges the trauma of romantic breakups, people don’t really talk about the fallout of a platonic separation. But the truth is a breakup is a breakup. When you share intimacy, and trust, in a friendship making the decision to dissolve …
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In Episode 99, Pt. 2, we continue to unravel the Love Language Paradox: I dive into the dos and don'ts of how to effectively use love languages. You will leave this episode ready to love and live from a new perspective. Similar Episodes 79: Should You Consider Couples Counseling? w/Dr. Kimberly VanBuren 57: Heal Relationship Disconnects w/Third Lay…
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Odds are, you've heard of the five love five languages by now, and you may even have proclaimed out loud that your love language is physical touch, quality time, or one of the five. But in my work as a therapist, I find that people are missing the real magic behind what makes love languages a powerful concept and maybe misunderstand the original in…
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If you know me, then you know that I am seriously a big fan of therapy. I might be a little biased as a therapist, but the truth is I am a big fan because I have seen firsthand the ability therapy has to transform lives. I have seen marriages saved, depression lifted, and teens get back on track with their life. However, I do understand that there …
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It's challenging to help a loved one struggling with any type of addiction. Sometimes direct, heart-to-heart conversation can lead to arguments, lies, and denial. Family and friends are often unsure of whether what they are dealing with is really an addiction or just misuse. The bottom line is seeing someone you love spiral into what you think is a…
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It is never easy when someone you know personally puts a label on you, like saying, “you’re so controlling.” Initially, you might think this person is just hating on you, but if you hear this from multiple people, you may begin to wonder if there is any truth to what they are saying. Controlling behaviors can be incredibly detrimental to any relati…
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Do you have someone in your life that it's hard to have a simple conversation about what you feel or over a concern you may be having? Every time you try to explain what you feel, they take it the wrong way, won't accept responsibility for their actions, or just plain act out. When this happens, you may find yourself caught in the web of their dysf…
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It has become commonplace for people to use mental health conditions as dramatic labels for aspects of everyday life. Expressions like, "OMG, she's so bipolar" and "I'm so OCD right now" have become a part of everyday conversations. While most people are just trying to describe what they feel at any given moment, this language may minimize the seri…
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There are certain seasons in life where it may feel like there is no solution to your problem. You've used every trick in the book, but the relationship, situation, or circumstance just isn't changing. Maybe you've been caring for a sick family member, or you are stuck in a dead relationship. You've cried, talked, prayed about it, and then talked a…
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I have heard countless people describe growing up in homes where they knew their parents cared about them, but many of the words, actions, and behaviors left them with wounds to deal with in adulthood. These wounds and traumas show up in adulthood in many ways, such as in patterns of settling for relationships that don't serve you, overthinking eve…
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Trust is one of the most essential components of a healthy relationship, and learning to trust someone again after a betrayal isn't easy. Re-establishing trust takes time, patience, and work, just as it does to establish it in the first place. Betrayal, such as infidelity, can affect your confidence and peace of mind. The old adage "once a cheater,…
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The year 2022 has been filled with ups and downs for me, and I’m sure many of you feel the same way. One of the things that kept me going this year was the inspiring words of wisdom shared by the guests who came on the show. Their words encouraged me, comforted me, and gave me the tools to move through all the curve balls that life threw my way. So…
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Dealing with the death of a loved one is never easy, and that grief can be twice as hard during the holidays. Memories serve as constant reminders of loss, and watching others celebrate can be painful and overwhelming. Whether it’s a sudden death or because of a long illness, the first holiday after the loss of a loved one changes so many things. W…
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It’s a natural human need to want to be seen and heard in the relationships that matter most to you. Unfortunately, many people find themselves in relationships where their concerns, thoughts, feelings, and desires are ignored. This experience can leave you questioning your value, even when you know better. Feeling unheard and unseen can happen in …
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Divorce is never easy. Even the people who try their best to have an amicable divorce will tell you it's the hardest thing they've ever done. When issues such as infidelity, resentment, and finances get tossed in, things can get nasty very quickly. And if you haven't been the primary breadwinner or have been disconnected from household finances, yo…
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Everyone has challenging thoughts occasionally. But when you start to see the negative in everything, it can leave you feeling bad about yourself, or make you feel hopeless. You may have tried practicing gratitude or being more positive and those things work but can quickly fade away. You don’t have to keep living with this mindset. Several techniq…
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It goes without saying that most of us spend an enormous amount of time and energy in our work setting, whether we work from home or go into an office. So, when our jobs are no longer aligned with our needs, wants, and desires, it can truly impact our mental health. While doing something like quiet-quitting or just checking out may sound appealing,…
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If you’ve ever considered using medication to deal with your mental health, questions about how it may affect your personality or do they even work may have crossed your mind. After all, we have all heard those horror stories about people looking like zombies after taking mental health medication. But what is often not talked about is the thousands…
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Have you ever been so far in your feelings that you are literally having a conversation with yourself about how someone or something has done your wrong? When we feel pain, betrayal, or hurt, it's easy to get stuck in our feelings. Processing emotions is healthy but staying in our feelings for too long robs us of the present moment and gives people…
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Have you ever felt like, with everything you’ve accomplished in your life, you should have more confidence and self-esteem? If you answered YES, you are not alone. Many highly successful individuals struggle with feeling like an imposter. These insecurities often stem from past experiences that have never been worked through. When left unchecked in…
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It seems that conflict is all around us these days, from political discord to conflict on the job, to fights with partners. The interesting thing is if asked, most people would say the one thing we want more than anything else is peace. However, if that’s the case, then why does it seem that so many of us are having trouble controlling tempers, com…
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Making the choice to go to couples counseling can feel like a very big step. It involves admitting things are not perfect in your relationship which often brings up feelings of failure, blame, and shame. For those who are unfamiliar with the therapeutic process, questions and concerns about couples counseling can limit a couple from seeking assista…
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Talk therapy and medications are wonderful ways to treat mental health issues. However, there are many other therapeutic avenues that could be beneficial but are often not explored. One such therapeutic approach is the use of Acupuncture. Acupuncture is a form of alternative medicine and a component of traditional Chinese medicine in which thin nee…
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The best part about a good vacation is how it can bring feelings of relaxation, peace of mind, and restoration. For a lot of people, however, those feelings are fleeting, and it’s not too long till you’re planning another vacation just to get a little bit of that peace and happiness again. As a society, we are constantly chasing happiness in the fo…
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We often dismiss what we want in life in order to maintain a present moment illusion of security, acceptance, or control. We may know that we are playing small yet continue to do so to keep the illusion. Why do we do this? Maybe it’s imposter syndrome, anxiety or the fear of the unknown. Whatever the root cause playing small limits our potential an…
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Do you feel like where you are at in life is where you’re supposed to be? I ask this a lot in therapy, and very few people can say they have achieved their true potential in life. The distance between where you are at and where you want to be is usually filled with lost dreams, disappointment, and feelings of regret. We let other people’s dreams ge…
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When a relationship turns abusive, it is one of the most devastating experiences. Shame, embarrassment, and self-blame often keep victims from seeking help. Abuse, also known as domestic violence, when in a household and/or intimate partner violence when within a couple, can come in varying forms; physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, and financial.…
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Why am I so easily irritated? Where does my irritability come from? These are some questions that may roll around your mind if you find yourself snapping at your loved ones, yelling at your dog, or experiencing road rage. Irritability is an instinctual reaction to feeling overwhelmed. There’s often a root cause for this irritability whether that be…
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In the last few years, meditation, mindfulness, and manifestation seem to be the buzzwords used to talk about mental wellness. Many have gravitated towards and practiced these concepts, but many others are still a bit skeptical. Emerging research, however, has shown that these practices can have many benefits. To help explore and understand this to…
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It's inevitable that at some point in life, you will run into someone who is a boundary breaker. Boundaries can be created around various things, like time, space, money, and even energy. Without boundaries, you may feel like you are being taken advantage of or overlooked. In today’s show, we will identify the various tactics boundary breakers use …
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On today's Drop the BS podcast episode, I am joined by New York Times Best-Selling Author Kristine Carlson, co-author of the “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” series. She has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, The View, and The Today Show. Her life story has recently been turned into a Lifetime movie, "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff: The Kristine Carlson…
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Have you ever felt like no matter how busy you are during the day, you never get as much done as you had hoped? It may feel like you’re running in place, and your destination keeps getting pushed further and further away. When we feel like this, life may be trying to tell us that something else is going on that we might not be dealing with or manag…
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Sweetbread, cakes, and ham with a side of hot pepper sauce were the smells that overwhelmed my West Indian home as a child during the holidays. I could indulge in these delicacies without a second thought. As an adult, however, holiday eating can be a real challenge while trying to improve my health. There’s this battle between wanting to enjoy foo…
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How many times have you heard someone say, “I have trust issues”? It's become such a common cliché to indicate that you've been hurt in the past. Trust issues can wreak serious havoc on your life, and are characterized by fears of betrayal, abandonment, and manipulation. Trust issues can lead to becoming defensive, shutting down, and building highe…
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When passion and Intimacy are lost in a relationship, it can be devastating. When I work with couples struggling with Intimacy, it has often been months or years since they’ve had physical touch. To the outside world, everything may seem completely normal, but most of the time, I can see in their eyes that they truly want to connect again. The prob…
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Most of us have a desire to be GREAT at something, whether it’s writing a book, launching a business, or having a successful relationship. But the distance between being okay and great is usually filled with obstacles like fear of success, analysis paralysis, and the ever so sneaking procrastination monster. One major reason we fail to achieve our …
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Have you ever heard someone say, "I don't' care what anyone thinks of me," but a lot of that person's actions scream that they do care? As humans, we are hard-wired to seek approval. It's like there is an unspoken belief that unless people approve of you, your worthless. There are real-life consequences for approval seeking, consequences that impac…
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During our weakest, most stressful moments, many of us find ourselves staring into the fridge or pantry for comfort. Feeding our feelings is a common coping response to life stressors. In fact, 38% of adults admit to overeating or eating unhealthy foods due to stress. Using food to suppress or calm negative emotions is a temporary, short-term solut…
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Do you have someone in your life that you absolutely love and want to keep in your life, but aspects of their personality drive you up the wall? Things like being manipulative, jealous, too needy, controlling, or always wanting to debate everything. Some of the most difficult personality types can be people closes to us; parents, children, spouses,…
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I'm not a fan of labels because every person on earth has unique quirks and traits. That's why it's a little bothersome that the label of "narcissist" is being thrown around left and right these days. Social media posts like "Are you married to a narcissist?" or "How to get over a narcissist" are everywhere. Overusing the term can be to the detrime…
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We've remixed one of our most popular episodes related to self-sabotage to give you a second dose of inspiration. If you've ever had those moments where you’re in a loop of negative thoughts that all go back to how you’re not good enough, this remix is for you. Sometimes these loops are triggered by a significant disappointment and other times, it’…
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I’m almost certain that there is not one person who has lived through the last year who has not experienced some level of grief and loss. Whether it is a consequence of the pandemic, or another life altering event, it seems that grief has become truly unavoidable. Grief can take a significant emotional toll, especially in the earliest days. Things …
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