Unlearning People Pleasing Behavior [A Summer of Encores]

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My strong is knowing what I bring to the table. Unlearning people pleasing behavior is challenging, not only because it's a part of the Black female's social fabric, but also because as Black women often existing in predominantly white spaces, pleasing others first is [undoubtedly] a survival mechanism. Hello code switching and shape shifting! The only way to unlearn what's been embedded in you is to love yourself the way you love others and to know with certainty what you're worth and what you bring to the table in whatever room you're in. Tap in to this week's encore episode to hear how we're taking steps everyday to say eff you to the expectations of whiteness and yes to pleasing ourselves even when it makes others uncomfortable. RESOURCES TO SUPPORT YOU IN DOING LIFE WITH LESS STRESS, LESS WORRY, AND LESS EMOTIONAL OVERWHELM Come gather and grow with us in the SOS SAFE SPACES support group. Want to be a part of a community of Black women supporting Black women through the ebbs and flows of life? Come gather with us monthly to chat it up about all the things that concern us, while holding each other accountable with love — accountable for how we see ourselves, treat ourselves, walk through the world, and how we allow others to treat us. Join SOS SAFE SPACES today. Cultivate a daily practice of nurturing yourself with Nurture Yourself Bingo Nurturing yourself does not have to be difficult, but it does need to be consistent, so why not make it fun. Nurture Yourself Bingo is divided into five categories – one category per card. Each category has twenty-four activities to support you in a daily practice of nurturing yourself. All you need to do to get started is print the cards, laminate them, and start nurturing yourself. Do one activity daily, marking a X in the squares as you go until you get bingo. Once you get bingo, do something to celebrate yourself. If you get bingo on more than one card at the same time, up the celebration. Alternatively, you can work on one card at a time and/or do more than one activity a day. It’s your practice, do what feels right for you. Whatever you decide, we've got FIVE CATEGORIES & 124 WAYS for you to do it. Join the My Strong Is global campaign by being a guest on the podcast. Listener Survey: Share your feedback with us HERE Connect and share with us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn and catch up with all things Shades of Strong at www.shadesofstrong.com.