SPFPP 229: Stay Curious

Something Positive for Positive People

Our guest, Chuck Copenspire and his identities Former queer life coach He/they Make corporate environments gayer, more efficient and more accessible Combining skill sets of sex work, trauma-informed, accessibility and neurodivergence DEI To chuck Creating space where an actual human can thrive without needing to pretend Contribute true gifts- special brain and incredibly powerful when applied to the right problems Not only creating opportunities, but proactively seeking out people who think “they cannot do it” Getting out of the way and making room for other people BDSM Empowered in bossy/take no shit/boundaries part of themselves Unwillingness to consent to power dynamics that don’t make sense They need to be a respectable person, if they want respect Birth Dysphoria around default she/mama/ Brought into contrast his masculine experience Herpes HSV1 positive for 12 years, 20 when first experienced symptoms Getting comfortable with disclosure 2 or 3 rejections Act of disclosure helped formalize consent boundaries for him Explicit consent for any bodily interactions Sexual health is mental health Shadow work/ Integration work Living in shadow is the self you were taught to hide Found BDSM spaces as a consenting space to be greedy, bossy, sadistic, silly, to be anything Regardless of BDSM element in one’s sexuality, there is inherently a shamed self who can be integrated with public presentable self Danger of not integrating- non consensually humiliating people he had crushes on Book: “Romancing the Shadow” Favorite fetish- helping straight people realize they’re gay How people react to dating him and realizing they are more queer than they thought Denial Curiosity Fear/anxiety: what will happen if they start to be gay, doing something wrong Challenging/validating/invalidating identities of people he dates Having identity challenged brings a lot up for people’s safety Ways you feel comfortable being approached Masks w/ pronouns My identity is not validated by other people’s reception of it. It is mine and validated by me. Finding a space where he belonged In Spokane in his 20’s in drag and comedy scene Making mistakes and failures Cult Destroyed a cult Solo parenting Navigate disclosing Welcome new ppl into community, to sense if there’s the energy to disclose If a kiss might be coming, let them know I’m HSV1 positive Getting self-consent! Checking in and being a partner with his body Closing: 1 message, 3 asks Stay curious If you wanna talk to him, please do Willing to adopt a scorpion or tarantula Meet & hold a super billionaire to let them cry in his arms LinkedIn: Chuck Copenspire Instagram: your.pansexual.crisis