S1 Ep13: The Bits You Didn't Hear

Our Dads Died

We generally record for a couple hours at a time when talking to someone, and edit that episode down to 40-60 minutes. That means you miss out on quite a lot of good bits for the sake of making something shorter! This episode is all those bits you missed out on. Enjoy!
Show notes and timestamps:

Summary


Intro to this episode. 0:00

• Welcome to our dads died, a special episode for those whose dads are dead or for those who have a dead dad.
• Also, for ghosts.
• The final episode of the first series.
  

Victor Sweeney: Embalming and open caskets. 2:18

• When someone is on the embalming table, they are going down the arteries, pushing the blood through the circulatory system and out through the vein.
• When someone in the casket is dressed.
• The importance of being able to do things step by step, rather than trying to involve the whole body in one shot.
• Mortuary school, whole body donation lab, cadaver lab, preparing bodies for anatomical study for doctors, preparing someone to last for 18 months.
• Do you prefer the ones where there is no body at all, easy job done, or the ones with a lot of work to do, like cremation and an urn?
• Some of the challenges of doing delayed funerals, such as covid-19, and how to keep all the personal requests straight.
  

Tom’s relationship with his dad. 10:51

• His dad never wanted to have kids in the first place, so he treated him like a friend when he was a kid.
• The difference between the first and second phases of life.
  

Bringing Tom’s dad back for a day. 11:52

• Combining dads creates one dad who's got all the good qualities, but also creates another dad who doesn't take you to the pub and doesn't teach you how to ride a bike.
• Great dad vs terrible dad.
• The one year anniversary of his dad's death, and how the film onward is about kids finding his magic book and bringing him back to life for 24 hours.
• My dad was the kind of guy who would go on an all-inclusive holiday. He would maybe sometimes kinda go to an aquarium or a museum.
• If he came back, he would probably go to marwell zoo.
  

Bringing Rich’s dad back for a day. 19:04

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  He's got a day with his dad. He's been dead for seven years, and a lot of his life has changed since then, so he thinks he would want to spend time with him.
• The person who's dead is back for one day, but they're just back for a day. It's just as though they just woke up and everything was normal.
• The funerals are on Friday, and the funeral is in Liverpool. The funeral is on friday and is in London.
  

Victor Sweeney: A professional mistake. 24:19

• A funeral for a vietnamese catholic priest who was a prisoner of war in vietnam. The church is full of the church is packed with like 500 Vietnamese catholics.
• The bishop is there, the american legion is there and the Vietnamese contingent is there.
• He helps roll out the casket and get it loaded up, and then he goes back into the church to grab a big vase of roses.
• It goes awry.
  

Eshaan Akbar: Afterlife. 29:03

• He was raised loosely christian, but is now an atheist and doesn't believe in an afterlife.
• He still believes that there is a nonzero chance that there's something right.
  

Eshaan Akbar: Have you seen your dad in your dreams? 30:23

• There are two types of dreams, a visitation dream and a release dream, where a dead relative comes to visit.
• There is a third dream where the dead relative is in the back of a car, sitting in the car, not doing very much.
  

Learning to not give ourselves a hard time. 33:17

• A year and a half in, there's still so many emotions that it's very easy to put them all under the umbrella of guilt. It's a very easy emotion to get.
• There's some wisdom buried deep at the bottom, somewhere.
• Share the podcast with anyone who might get something out of it, even if it's someone who just finds it funny listening to two middle class guys having a banter.
• Death comes to us all, but it comes to you first.