223. Stressed about your dating life (and nosy questions) during the holidays? This is for you.

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Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Dr. Kristin Neff - SelfCompassion.org Self-care Activities for Women, Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite

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We're trying something different this week: a full post-show breakdown of every episode in the latest season of Black Mirror! Ari Romero is joined by Tudum's Black Mirror expert, Keisha Hatchett, to give you all the nuance, the insider commentary, and the details you might have missed in this incredible new season. Plus commentary from creator & showrunner Charlie Brooker! SPOILER ALERT: We're talking about the new season in detail and revealing key plot points. If you haven't watched yet, and you don't want to know what happens, turn back now! You can watch all seven seasons of Black Mirror now in your personalized virtual theater . Follow Netflix Podcasts and read more about Black Mirror on Tudum.com .…

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How to spot the self-judgment trap
Why self-compassion is the antidote to self-judgement
Boundaries that slay: “You don’t owe them your story” becomes your mantra for keeping nosy questions in check
Active self-care strategies that keep you thriving
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How to spot the self-judgment trap
Why self-compassion is the antidote to self-judgement
Boundaries that slay: “You don’t owe them your story” becomes your mantra for keeping nosy questions in check
Active self-care strategies that keep you thriving
How to build a joy plan that sticks

Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Dr. Kristin Neff - SelfCompassion.org Self-care Activities for Women, Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite

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234. Go From Shrinking To Confident Main Character Energy 39:56

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In this episode, we’re diving deep into Main Character Energy — what it is, why it matters, and how to start building it (even if you’re shy, introverted, or feeling wildly behind). You’ll learn: - Why Main Character Energy is even more important in unstable times - The three essential skills at the heart of a Main Character Life - The truth about people-pleasing, perfectionism, and "best friend identity" - Why healing burnout isn’t just for you — it’s for your community, too - How to take powerful action using the "10 Seconds of Courage" method Real stories from Lily and her clients on what happens when you stop shrinking and start taking up space This is your invitation to stop settling for “good enough” and start creating a life that’s audaciously joyful, deeply aligned, and unapologetically yours. Want to go deeper? Join us for the free live training on April 23rd: ✨ Stop People-Pleasing + Build a Stupidly Joyful Life ✨ You’ll learn exactly how to cultivate Main Character Energy — and get a behind-the-scenes look at the 6-month mastermind, Main Character Life. RSVP HERE-- https://www.datebrazen.com/joyful-life Applications open during the live event, and spots are limited. ✨ Join the waitlist for early access → https://www.datebrazen.com/mcl-waitlist 🎧 Listen now + step into your Main Character Era. Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book Follow me on: ✨ Instagram ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube…

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233. How Jackie Went From Burnt Out Background Character-- to a Magnetic, Joyful AF Life 54:17

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She Moved Abroad, Quit Her Job & Took Her Life Back: Jackie’s Main Character Energy Story Burned out, stuck, and shrinking herself to stay safe—Jackie thought joy was out of reach. In this powerful episode, she shares how she went from emotional exhaustion to building a joy-filled life abroad with purpose, friendship, and bold-ass moves. If you're craving your own main character energy moment, this one's for you. RSVP for my free training on April 23rd, 2025: https://www.datebrazen.com/joyful-life Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book Follow me on: ✨ Instagram ✨ Tiktok ✨ Youtube…

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Episode Spotlight: My Qualifying/Disqualifying Questions Strategy So You Never Go On A Bad Date Again 36:49

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In this episode, Lily shares the ONE question that will revolutionize how you vet potential partners, ensuring you never waste time on lackluster dates and conversations again. Grab your notepad because this episode isn't just about strategy - it's a journey into reclaiming control of your dating narrative and steering towards the relationships you truly desire. Links: ✨ Order Lily's book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get our free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to attract the right partner as a "late bloomer": https://www.datebrazen.com/training ✨ Download the Free Guide to Your Essence-Based Preferences HERE ✨ Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/qd-questions-strategy ✨ Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . ✨ Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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Episode Spotlight: "How Can I Stop Being Lazy In My Dating Life?" 17:34

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In this week’s episode of the Date Brazen Podcast-- Episode Spotlight: "How can I stop being lazy in my dating life?", I’m teaching you exactly what you need to do instead of falling for the productivity myth. (which will lead to better outcomes for your dating life!) What you’ll learn in the episode: ✨ How to ditch the idea that “doing more” will get you better results in dating. ✨ How to do the most POWERFUL tiny steps in dating to get the biggest results. ✨ Why embracing self-care and giving yourself permission to slow down is key. ✨ How to redefine dating success on your own terms—and why that’s your real path to finding the right people for you. ____________ WORK WITH LILY: ✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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Episode Spotlight: How to Bless and Release The Wrong People Without Mind Drama 32:29

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In this episode, I walk you through my Blessing and Releasing strategy: a powerful step-by-step method to let go of the wrong people and make space for the right ones. Because holding on to what isn’t meant for you? That’s keeping you from what is. Here’s what you’ll learn: ✨ How to identify who to bless and release (and why it’s essential). ✨ The mindset shift that will help you actually move on. ✨ Why setting boundaries is a radical act of self-love. ✨ How to embrace abundance instead of settling out of scarcity. ✨ The truth: You are worthy of what you desire in love. ____________ WORK WITH LILY: ✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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Episode Spotlight: Where Do I Even START With Dating? 16:37

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In this episode, I break down exactly how to start dating with confidence, self-care, and intention.-- especially if you've never dated before! You’ll get a step-by-step guide to move past fear, own your desires, and create a joyful dating life on your terms. Here’s what you’ll walk away with: ✨ How to start dating from a place of power (not pressure). ✨ Why your thoughts are not always facts—and how to shift them. ✨ The "Thank You More Please" challenge to clarify what you really want. ✨ How to release perfectionism and embrace the messy, fun, real parts of dating. ✨ The truth: You are uniquely qualified for the right person. _________ WORK WITH LILY: ✨ Get my free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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Episode Spotlight: Owning Your Preferences is a Feminist Act 23:48

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If you've ever been told you're too picky or need to be more open , this episode is for you. Your preferences aren’t the problem—they’re the key to dating with more joy and ease. I break down how to define your essence-based preferences so you can stop wasting time on the wrong people and start attracting the right ones. ✨ Get free "Create Your Essence Based Preferences Guide" HERE ✨ Order my book, “Thank You, More Please”: https://www.datebrazen.com/book ✨ Get my FREE training, “3 Steps to Attract the RIGHT Partner as a Late Bloomer”: https://www.datebrazen.com/training Links: Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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232. Sexual liberation, self-permission, and getting messy with Brandon Kyle Goodman 49:50

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This week, I’m joined by the brilliant Brandon Kyle Goodman—writer, actor, and sexual wellness advocate—to talk about breaking free from shame, embracing curiosity, and giving yourself radical permission to be messy in your self-discovery. If dating has ever made you feel like you need to “get it right” before putting yourself out there, this episode is your permission slip to do it your way . 🎧 Listen now and start reclaiming your power! Brandon Kyle Goodman (they/them) is a writer, actor, and sexual wellness advocate. They’re best known for their work on Netflix’s smash hit and Emmy nominated animated comedy series Big Mouth and its spin-off Human Resources; Amazon’s Modern Love, Hulu’s Plus One, and ABC's Abbot Elementary. Goodman is also a co-host of the new E! network awards season after show "RE!CAP". And every Thursday you can hear episodes of their iHeart podcast Tell Me Something Messy; a sex-positive show with the intention of destroying shame around sex by talking about sex. Connect with Brandon: 📲 Instagram 🌍 Website ✉️ Messy Mondays Substack 🎙️ Tell Me Something Messy Podcast This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨ Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE . Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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231. How To Shoot Your Shot 100% of The Time 18:11

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If you’ve ever hesitated to put yourself out there because what if they say no? , this episode of the Date Brazen Podcast is for you. We’re flipping the script on outdated dating rules that keep you passive and stuck. Instead of waiting, I’m teaching you how to co-create the dating life you want, how to shoot your shot like a boss, and actually enjoy the process (yes, really). Here’s what you’ll learn: 💥 Why I DON'T believe in the advice "If he wanted to he would" 💥 Why "shooting your shot" is a dating superpower 💥 The confidence shift that makes asking for what you want feel good This episode is all about bold moves and big results. Listen now and start shaping your love life on your terms. ✨ Main Character Dating is now open for enrollment. Join now. ✨ Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE . Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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230. How To Get Over The Fear Of Dating 23:04

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Dating can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions—excitement, hope, fear, and sometimes, pure panic. In this episode, we’re tackling the fear that keeps so many incredible people stuck on the sidelines. If you’ve ever thought, What if I get rejected? What if I say the wrong thing? What if I’m not enough? —this one’s for you. I’ll walk you through how to move through dating fear with self-compassion, community, and a whole lot of self-trust. Because here’s the truth: fear is normal, and it doesn’t have to be in the driver’s seat. You don’t have to be fearless to find love—you just have to be willing to take messy, brave action toward what you want. Hit play, and let’s reframe your fear into power. Takeaways: ✨ Self-compassion isn’t just nice; it literally helps your body handle stress better. ✨ Feeling afraid to date? That’s human. You’re not alone. ✨ Messy action beats overthinking every time. ✨ The right person won’t need you to perform or say the perfect thing. ✨ If you desire more, it’s because it’s possible for you. Let’s go get you what you want. 💫 Get your free Essence Based Preferences Guide here . This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨ Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE . Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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229. Flirting 101: My 3-Step Process to Flirt, Know If Someone’s Into You, and Ask Them Out with Ease 22:50

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In this week’s Date Brazen Podcast episode, Flirting 101: My 3-Step Process to Flirt, Know If Someone’s Into You, and Ask Them Out with Ease , I’m breaking down my 3 step process to exactly how to flirt, know if someone’s into you, and ask them out with ease. Here’s the deal: 💡 Flirting is a learnable skill. 💡 Awkwardness? It’s just a sign you’re human (not a dealbreaker). 💡 With 10 seconds of courage, you can change the course of your dating life. In this episode, we'll dive into: ✔ What IS flirting? Like, what actually is it and how can you do it YOUR way. ✔ How to become rejection-proof. ✔ A simple 3-step approach to make flirting feel natural. ✔ SOFT practice for tough times If you’re ready to stop overthinking and start shooting your shot, this episode will be your new dating secret weapon. Let's do this! This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨ Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE . Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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228. How to build confidence and agency in your dating life with Julie and Yue of the Dateable Podcast 54:37

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Today on The Date Brazen Podcast, I'm talking to Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu-- dating and relationship experts and co-hosts of Dateable , one of the top podcasts on modern relationships, featured by The New York Times , HuffPost , and Oprah Daily . Tune into this episode to hear- Understanding your dating archetype can help you navigate relationships better. How to use their quiz in the Dateable book helps identify strengths and weaknesses in dating. How to use the "Sunday test" helps assess compatibility with a partner. What to expect with sexual chemistry in early dating-- can it develop over time, or do you need to expect "The Spark". And more! Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They’re the authors of How To Be Dateable and the co-hosts of the podcast Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more. They’re also the hosts and executive producers of the dating experiment show Exit Interview. Julie brings her background in human-centered design and qualitative research, while Yue shares her experience as a dating coach. Together you can find them at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/ and @dateablepodcast . Their book How to be datable comes out January 28th, 2025- TODAY! Get Julie and Yue's book at howtobedateable.com And learn about their work at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/ This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨ Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE . Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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227. You can't say the wrong thing to the right person, here's why 17:15

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In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily unpacks her favorite piece of dating advice: You can't say the wrong thing to the right person. This 15 minute episode will free you from so much anxiety and worry in your dating life, so you have more time and energy to shoot your shot with confidence. Takeaways Dating is a microcosm of your hopes and fears. Self-care in dating enhances your quality of life. You cannot say the wrong thing to the right person. The right person will ask for clarification. Focus on a minimum viable audience in dating. You are for the few, not the many. Embrace the messiness of human connection. Your desires matter and are achievable. This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨ Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE . Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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Episode Spotlight: The complete dating detox guide 22:29

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Enjoy this ep spotlight! This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨ Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE . Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .

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226. Creating your pleasure goals for 2025 with Susan Hyatt 43:53

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In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily engages with Susan Hyatt, a master certified life coach, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker. They discuss Susan's mission to empower women through her Bear process, which emphasizes self-care, body wisdom, and breaking free from diet culture. The conversation explores the importance of creating a thriving environment, embracing pleasure, setting boundaries, and taking bold actions in midlife. As they approach the New Year, Susan shares insights on goal-setting and the significance of living a pleasure-centered life, encouraging listeners to overcome obstacles and embrace their potential. You'll learn: Susan Hyatt is a master certified life coach and bestselling author. The Bear process focuses on self-care and body wisdom. Environmental detox is crucial for creating a thriving space. Mindset work helps break free from diet culture. Pleasure is essential for healing and well-being. Setting boundaries is key to listening to your body. Embracing bold actions can lead to personal growth in midlife. New Year energy can be harnessed for goal-setting. Creating a pleasure-centered life enhances overall happiness. Obstacles are not greater than one's potential. This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨ Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE . Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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Corrected Episode Spotlight: Late Bloomer guide to releasing worry + finding love 36:49

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We're taking a break for the holidays (coming back Jan 7th, 2025) so enjoy this ep spotlight! This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨ Are you feeling like a “late bloomer” in your dating life? In this Episode Spotlight of the Date Brazen Podcast, Lily busts nine myths commonly believed by “late bloomers” and shares practical steps to overcome them. With a focus on self-compassion, Main Character Energy, and the idea that dating is a learnable skill, Lily’s insights will shift your perspective and boost your confidence for joyful AF dating experiences. Feelings of shame and isolation often accompany those who feel behind in their love lives. This episode aims to help you shed the "late bloomer" identity, provide you with a sense of relief, and galvanize you to take action toward your deepest desires. You’ll learn how to: Embrace self-compassion and connection Distinguish between thoughts vs. facts Break free from societal (and patriarchal) dating norms and define your dating journey Heal and neutralize "late bloomer" conditioning Let go of those who aren't right for you with grace (bless and release!) Embrace your current stage in life and recognize that you’re whole as you are Redefine what “blooming” means to you Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE . Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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225. Your Complete 2025 Dating Plan: How to go from "late bloomer" to finding the right partner with confidence 35:07

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In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily outlines a comprehensive seven-step dating plan for 2025, aimed at helping listeners create a joyful and fulfilling dating life. The plan emphasizes the importance of claiming desires, understanding essence-based preferences, and utilizing qualifying questions to find the right partner. Lily also discusses the significance of in-person dating, building a unique dating profile, and fostering community support to enhance the dating experience. The episode encourages listeners to take control of their dating lives and believe in the possibility of finding the right relationship. You’ll learn: Create a 2025 dating plan to make the right relationship inevitable. Claim what you want unapologetically in your dating life. Essence-based preferences help you define how you want to feel in a relationship. Qualifying and disqualifying questions are essential for vetting potential partners. In-person dating is still alive and can reduce reliance on dating apps. Build a dating profile that reflects your true self and essence-based preferences. The Thank You More Please challenge helps you recognize evidence of what you want in your love life. Community and support are crucial for a joyful dating experience. You are worthy of care and support in your dating journey. What you desire in love is possible, no matter your past experiences. This episode is brought to you by my free training: The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season . If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season - will help you build a boundary plan for nosy relative's questions AND create a 2025 dating plan so you can BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year. Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE . Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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224. The Loneliness Fix 20:16

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In this episode, Lily addresses the feelings of loneliness that can arise during the holiday season, especially for singles. She provides a three-step framework to help listeners navigate their emotions, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and acknowledging feelings, finding comfort and belonging, and choosing accessible positive thoughts. The conversation encourages self-compassion and resilience, offering practical advice for managing loneliness and fostering emotional well-being. You’ll learn: Recognize that loneliness is a hard moment and allow yourself to feel it. Emotional granularity helps in understanding and processing feelings. Self-soothing is essential for immediate comfort during loneliness. Reaching out to friends for support is crucial, even if they can't always respond. Creating a joy-building plan can help combat feelings of loneliness. Choosing accessible positive thoughts can shift your mindset. It's normal to feel lonely, especially during the holidays. Building resilience helps in managing future feelings of loneliness. You are worthy of love and support, regardless of your current situation. Your desire for connection is valid and can guide you towards it. This episode is brought to you by my free training: The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season . If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season - will help you build a boundary plan for nosy relative's questions AND create a 2025 dating plan so you can BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year. Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE . Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok . Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE .…

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223. Stressed about your dating life (and nosy questions) during the holidays? This is for you. 22:30

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Stressed about your dating life (and nosy questions) during the holidays? This episode is for you. Yes, it’s that time of year—when relatives turn the holiday dinner table into a Q&A about your dating life. Lily is sharing how to respond to every nosy question from relatives - that you don’t want to answer! This is your guide to handling intrusive questions with confidence while staying grounded and true to yourself. Tune in for the best strategies for setting boundaries, saying “pass the peas” to nosy questions, and finding joy in the season without letting holiday stress or stress about your dating life get in the way. You’ll learn: How to spot the self-judgment trap Why self-compassion is the antidote to self-judgement Boundaries that slay: “You don’t owe them your story” becomes your mantra for keeping nosy questions in check Active self-care strategies that keep you thriving How to build a joy plan that sticks Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Dr. Kristin Neff - SelfCompassion.org Self-care Activities for Women, Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite…

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222. Healing from co-dependency, people pleasing, and perfectionism in your dating life with Victoria Albina 41:10

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Ready to stop emotional outsourcing and start owning your worth in dating and beyond? If you’ve ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the exhausting cycle of codependency, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Lily invites her brilliant friend and colleague, Victoria Albina, to explore what it takes to recognize the patterns that no longer serve you and break free from them—so you can finally show up as the main character in your life. Through an intersectional feminist lens, Victoria redefines the trope of codependency as “emotional outsourcing,” helping us see how it impacts not just our relationships but how we exist in the world. Together, they explore how our nervous system shapes our sense of safety and belonging, offering practical tools for reconnecting with self-love and grounding in our voice and intentions. We get into: How emotional outsourcing holds you back from being your authentic self The three essential emotional needs: safety, belonging, and worth An in-depth look at the nervous system and its role in fight, flight, fawn, and freeze responses Grounding techniques to help you reconnect with self-love and intention How to expand your capacity for feeling good, seen, and safe Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Victoria’s website Victoria on Instagram Feminist Wellness Free meditations from Victoria for Date Brazen Listeners: VictoriaAlbina.com/lily Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-from-codependency-with-victoria-albina…

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221. SOFT practice for tough times 14:13

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I’m diving into how to care for yourself when life feels heavy. If you’re feeling drained or disappointed post-election—or really, after any tough experience—I’m here with a simple but powerful framework to help you reclaim your energy. In this episode, I’ll guide you through the SOFT practice: Self-compassion, Owning your needs, Feeling your feelings, and Thoughts, not facts. I’ll share practical tools, like Dr. Kristin Neff’s self-compassion meditation, to help you navigate challenging times with more grace. Whether it’s political stress or personal struggles, this episode is for anyone who needs a reminder that you deserve care, kindness, and support. Links: Free 5-minute self-compassion medication from Dr. Kristin Neff: https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-practices/ The Loveland Foundation: https://thelovelandfoundation.org/…

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Episode Spotlight: How to create your essence-based preferences 27:08

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We’re airing a popular episode about claiming your essence-based preferences. Lily takes you through what essence-based preferences are, how they can transform your dating life, how to know if you’re being too rigid, and how to create them for yourself. This is a juicy episode you’ll want to come back to again and again! Hot-takes and How-tos from this episode: How do you know if you're being too "rigid" Essence-based preferences can apply to everything that you want Figure out how to get to the root of what you want by crafting your personal love-life vocabulary Links: Main Character Dating (formerly Brazen Breakthrough) Episode 26: How to navigate money in your dating life Follow Date Brazen on TikTok…

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220. Slow burn vs. "The Spark" 21:46

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“Should I give them another chance, or should I ‘just know’ if they’re right?” Hot take: The whole slow burn vs. spark debate might be keeping you from finding a meaningful connection. This episode challenges the idea that a romantic connection needs to fit neatly into a “slow burn” or “spark” to be worth pursuing. In this episode, you’ll learn: ✨ The pros and cons of Slow Burn vs. Spark—and why binaries rarely help in dating. ✨ Why curiosity is your best guide—offering a healthy middle ground that brings clarity without overthinking. ✨ When you’re just not feeling romantic interest? Bless and release without guilt! ✨ How to know what you want, trust your instincts, and choose curiosity over stressing about instant chemistry. Get ready to reframe your approach to dating, focus on what matters, and let go of the pressure to decide if it’s a slow burn or a spark from the start. Let’s make dating feel lighter, more fun, and aligned with you! Links: Pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/slowburn-vs-spark…

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219. Election Dating Survival Guide 23:10

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How do you date with intention and authenticity during an election season? You’re in luck! Lily is back with a special episode all about dating during the election. She explores how to navigate the heightened political climate with a boundaried, agency-filled plan to attract people who truly align with your values. Lily also shares tips on crafting a profile that reflects your values, managing tough discussions on dates, and knowing when to "bless and release." Get ready to learn how to vet dates based on political beliefs, set firm boundaries, and confidently steer conversations. You’ll learn: Understanding your boundaries and using essence-based preferences to define how you want to feel in a relationship How to incorporate your political values into your essence-based framework Best practices for bringing up politics in dating, including a reminder that “You cannot say the wrong thing to the right person.” Guidelines for dating during an election year, focusing on asking questions and prioritizing your emotional well-being Tips for including your political preferences in your dating profile Navigating heated political discussions during a date with grace Links: Pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold! 121. Dating Apps, AMA 135. How to create your essence-based preferences 162. The complete dating detox guide Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/dating-during-an-election…

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218. How to build main character identity (and stop being the "best friend") 30:31

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Playing the sidekick in your own life? Not it. Step into your power, claim your main character identity and start making bold moves today. Why not you? Lily is dishing all about main character energy—what it is, what happens when you're not living in it, and how to level up and claim your spotlight. We’ve all been there—shrinking our desires because we fear being "too much" or worried about rejection. Or maybe you’re in that “good enough” life rut: a good job, good friends, good vacations... but deep down, you know you’re ready for great. This episode is all about ditching the people-pleasing and stepping into your main character era. You’ll learn: What it really means to not be in main character energy The three essential main character skills: permission, self-trust, and massive messy action How to stop sidelining your needs and start taking up space Practical tips on how to use 10 seconds of courage to build that main character muscle It’s not about being perfect. Even main characters make mistakes—but they’ve got the tools to get back up. So, give yourself permission to be a little messy and start owning your story today. Links: Applications are open for the Main Character Life Mastermind! 140. My bless and release strategy for letting go 216. Stop overthinking your love life decisions (and how to actually trust yourself) Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-build-main-character-identity…

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BONUS: From paralyzed to launching her dream business with Mastermind client, Laura 41:13

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Ready to crush it and take your dreams to the next level? This episode is ALL about that! We’re diving into Laura’s epic journey of leveling up her life, how she tapped into her MCE (yep, Major Character Energy), and broke down her big dreams into totally doable, bite-sized steps. And guess what? It worked! You’ll walk away feeling fired up, knowing that what you want is not only possible—it’s practically calling your name. This is your sign. Time to hit play, step into your power and go after what you want. We get into: Why action without community = dead-end vibes Laura’s raw, real talk on going through Main Character Life Mastermind during a tough time of grief How deep personal growth impacts everything, including your relationships The badass move from inaction to taking bold steps toward your biggest dreams Real talk: Confidence is EVERYTHING, and asking for what you want is the key to getting it How to create the support system you need to step onto that bigger stage in your life Links: Applications are open for the Main Character Life Mastermind! Laura’s website Laura on Instagram: @ cheekylamiki @ dispatcheddivorcee Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/from-paralyzed-to-launching-her-dream-business-with-laura…

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217. From comfort zone to a joyful, main character life with Mastermind client, Katie 54:44

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Ready to stop playing small and start living big? This week, Mastermind client Katie shares how she embraced main character energy, stepped out of her comfort zone, and began living a joyful AF life! From ditching self-doubt to creating a social life that lights her up, Katie talks about the bold moves she made—like taking a sabbatical and going on solo adventures. It wasn’t easy, but she trusted herself enough to push past fear and take massive, rewarding actions. We get into: Breaking out of your comfort zone and going after what you want Building joy and meaningful social connections The power of self-trust and why it’s okay to invest in yourself Katie’s breakthrough journey and how she stopped playing small Don’t miss out on the chance to take control of your own story! Tune in and step into your main character energy. Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/comfort-zone-to-mce-with-katie…

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Bonus: From burnout and overworking to setting boundaries with work and creating more space for joy and connections with Mastermind client, Juliet 34:12

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Do you feel like you're burning the candle at both ends with nothing left for yourself? In this bonus episode, Lily chats with Juliet, a client from the Main Character Energy Mastermind, about how she transformed her life by setting boundaries at work and making room for joy and meaningful connections. Juliet’s story is all about taking back control and living fully to share how stepping into her power completely flipped her life around. From feeling burned out and isolated to creating deep friendships and a fulfilling love life, Juliet’s transformation is nothing short of inspiring. We get into: Truly believing in what you need and want unlocks the power to make aligned choices Identifying the key components and values of your ideal life is the first step toward living it How Juliet nurtured deeper connections with friends Finding more space for joy within all facets of Juliet’s life Overcoming internal criticism shifts your mindset from self-doubt to self-compassion Turning “dating sucks” into “I can make dating fun!” Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/from-burnout-to-boundaries-with-client-juliet…

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216. Stop overthinking your love life decisions (and how to actually trust yourself) 48:51

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Are you stuck in a cycle of overthinking and self-doubt? Lily tackles exactly how you can break free from that mental loop. We dive into the real cost of overthinking—how it's draining your energy, wasting your time, and slowing down your life’s momentum. Lily shares methods to help you stop doubting yourself and start building a rock-solid foundation of self-trust. By the end of the episode, you'll have a clear plan of action so you can confidently take bold steps toward the life you want, without the exhausting mental spirals. What if overthinking was just a roadblock on your journey to becoming the main character in your own story? This is your invitation to shift into that energy, giving yourself permission to trust, transform, and take massive, messy action. You’ll learn: How to recognize the signs that you may have a self-trust deficit and how it affects your daily life Why building self-trust, even imperfectly, is an essential step toward living a rich and fulfilling life The reasons behind why you struggle to trust yourself and how fear and past experiences may be holding you back That self-trust is a skill that takes time and practice to master How to build self-trust and confidently take action, leading to more clarity and control in your life Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Lily’s book: Thank You, More Please Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-trust-yourself…

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215. How to ask for exactly what you want, nurture big dreams, and overcome your fear 47:11

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