Warren Farrell - Soul-Mate Wisdom

10 Lessons Learned

About Warren Farrell PHD

Warren Farrell, PhD, has coached couples and psychologists in couples’ communication for the past 30 years. His Role Mate to Soul Mate book emanates from his popular course of the same title.

Dr. Farrell has been chosen by the Financial Times of London as one of the world’s top 100 thought leaders. His books are published in 19 languages, and include The New York Times bestseller Why Men Are the Way They Are, international bestseller The Myth of Male Power, and 2018's The Boy Crisis..

Dr. Farrell has been interviewed repeatedly by Oprah, Barbara Walters, Tucker Carlson and Jordan Peterson, and also by Peter Jennings, Katie Couric, and Charlie Rose. He has frequently written for and been featured in The New York Times and publications worldwide. Warren has two daughters and lives with his wife in Mill Valley, California, and virtually at warrenfarrell.com.

Episode Notes

08:51 Soulmate Wisdom 1: The secret to feeling loved is to feel understood.

14:18 Soulmate Wisdom 2: Our choice of partner is the most important statement about our choice of values.

18:09 Soulmate Wisdom 3: Every virtue taken to its extreme becomes a vice.

22:48 Soulmate Wisdom 4: Criticism looks different to the criticizer and the criticized

25:28 Soulmate Wisdom 5: Anger is Vulnerability's Mask.

30:10 Soulmate Wisdom 6: Falling in love is biologically natural and sustaining love is biologically unnatural

31:15 Soulmate Wisdom 7: The path to relationship wealth is appreciating your partner as if you're panning for gold

33:29 Soulmate Wisdom 8: The more you love your partner, the more vulnerable you feel.

35:28 Soulmate Wisdom 9: When either of us wins, both of us lose.

36:24 Soulmate Wisdom 10: Never say what you don't want, ask for what you do

38:55 Soulmate Wisdom 11. When criticism appears, wisdom disappears