Ep. 23: Words Create Worlds- Using NLP to Create Your Dream Opportunity

Career Design Podcast

Episode 23

SPEAKERS

Joanie, Lindsay

Lindsay 00:00

I'm Lindsay Mustain, and this is the career design podcast made for driven ambitious square pegs and round holes type professionals who see things differently and challenge the status quo. We obliterate obstacles and unlock hidden pathways to overcome and succeed where others have not stagnation feels like death, and we are unwilling to compromise our integrity and settle for being averaged in any way. We are the backbone of any successful business and those who overlook our potential are doomed to a slow demise. We do work that truly matters aligns with our purpose and in turn, we make our lasting mark on the world. We are the dreamers, doers, legends and visionaries who are called to make our most meaningful contribution and love what we do.
Lindsay 00:43

Welcome to the career design podcast today I am super excited to introduce you to my guest, which is Joanie Dhillon and her partner Scott are the leaders of NLP freedom who provide NLP trainings from the practitioner level to those who actually want to be certified to teach this to others. And they do a really amazing strategy and modality around setting the trauma around what you've done in the past to really create the life that you've always imagined. Does that sound accurate? Joanie?

Joanie 01:12

It does it does. Lindsay, thank you. That was incredible. Yes, absolutely. And I think it would behoove your audience for me to explain what the heck and LP is. Before I do, can I just say it's such a pleasure to be on your show? It's just an honor. So thank you for having me here.

Lindsay 01:31

I am so excited. I've gotten I've known Johnny since 2018. So we've been around each other for a long time. So I'm so excited to get you on here and to share your genius.

Joanie 01:41

Thank you so much. So yes, Lindsay you're absolutely correct. We just got and I teach, my partner who's absolutely incredible and amazing. We teach an evolved form of NLP. So what is NLP? It stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming, super jargon a stick word I get. And what that means is, it's the connection between the mind neuro language, linguistic, and the impact that both those have the mind and language on the body and behavior or programming. So I like to call it the user manual for your mind that you never got when you were young. I expect you to go out and create results, but nobody ever told you how. Right, so that's what we teach.

Lindsay 02:25

Oh, that is amazing. Well, language is so powerful, because that really defines our reality, what we speak that becomes our truth and what we can really put out into the world and

Joanie 02:34

You couldn't be more right. So here's how we break it down. Your current reality is a byproduct of the thoughts and the words that you are thinking or saying out loud. And those thoughts and words, create your focus Lindsy, your focus leads to your state, your internal state, how you're feeling, which impacts your behavior, whether you do or don't do, or how you do the thing that you're doing, right. And that leads to your results. So focus leads to behavior, which leads to results. And if you're not getting the result that you want in your life, let's just say you're not landing that dream job, or you're going interview after interview and you're just like, oh my god, I can't seem to get this job right or a job period. Well, that is a byproduct of your focus. And that impacts how you feel your state and your behavior their buy comes from that and therefore your result. So you're the words that you speak to yourself and out loud are creating that focus. And the reality is, is that most of us that our entire society has been programmed to focus on what we don't want. We know what we don't want we know that we fear not getting the job we know that we what we don't like in our current job or career, right, we know what we don't like in our boss we know. Like in our partners, we know that. And that ends up being the thoughts that we think and the words that we speak out loud, which determine our focus our behavior, and therefore the results that we get.

Lindsay 04:01

I love this because we definitely speak a lot of things and watching my clients go through this there's a lot of self-doubts there's a lot of negative self-talk around worthiness and aptitude. I'd love to hear a little bit about talking about shedding trauma because you talked about the shedding of trauma as being a way to freedom here.

Joanie 04:20

Yeah, absolutely. So Scott and I teach an evolved form of NLP right NLP was the incredible body of work that was created in the 1970s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder who modeled other therapists and even hypnotherapists that were doing really well and excellent in their professions. But one of the things that NLP fails to do is address the past it never it doesn't do that. So what we sought out was we went to the trainer of a technique that we teach now that really resolves the past and I'll tell you why that's important. So that you can be free and clear of it. See most people walk around with I like to call 80 pound sound that sandbags on They're on their waist, right? Like they're trying to run this marathon. They're trying to get to the get the job dreamland, the dream job gets to that certain income that they want be free and clear about their debt, create the ideal relationships that they're like all of that stuff, yet they're walking around with all of this, this metaphorical, which really, it is weight, though, that impacts us every single day. And it's the unresolved negative emotions from their past, whether that be significant emotional events of the past or even trauma. And trauma is interpreted differently by each individual what may be traumatic to one may not be to another, when I was doing work with a little child, him putting his finger in a light socket was traumatic, right. So the traumas stored differently in each of us. And with that being unresolved, it is impacting and informing the now. And the unconscious mind does not know the difference we do we work with the unconscious mind, it doesn't know the difference between what you are feeling in the now the past, or the future. So when people what happens is we are getting associated. So let me give you an example and see that maybe your audience can resonate with, let's say somebody's going in for a job interview, okay. And in that job, like as they're excited about the job interview, they're excited about the job. And the thing that's going on in their mind, however, we call this an internal representation, is the last time they were fired from their job like they just got fired from their job. Could this resonate at all?

Lindsay 06:26

Yes, that sounds so much like that. Maybe they're feeling like they're being pushed out or something is happening exactly

Joanie 06:32

That that could be a two and see, that event itself was a neutral event, the event itself was neutral, yet the meaning that we gave that event, which is not a conscious-minded thing to do, it happens at the unconscious level is stored, and therefore it's informing the now. So if you gave that event of being pushed out, or one given being pushed out, forced out, fired, whatever the thing was, right, even furloughed, and they were left in a negative situation that they interpreted as being negative, like oh, my gosh, didn't have money, whatever that thing was, this past year has just been crazy for a lot of people, right? Well, that meaning is impacting and informing the now. So when they go into another interview, whether it be in person or virtual these days, in their mind, they're making images of right, so there's an internal representation, for example of that force being forced out, and what they felt in that moment, and the internal self-dialogue that was going on, oh, no, it's gonna happen again, for example. And that impacts behavior, and therefore results, whether you land the job or you don't,

Lindsay 07:38

Oh, my gosh, I love it.

Joanie 07:41

So we don't resolve our past, Lindsay, we're continuing to recreate the same pattern over and over again, through different people and situations and circumstances, we'll continue to do this our entire life. So Scott, and I have just dedicated, we're so passionate about freeing people from their past, so they can create an empowered future, to get what they want in life, whether it's a job or a partner, that ideal health, whatever that is, like it's about being able to not just conscious mindedly say what you want, because here's the thing that nobody really gets, when we say we want to earn a certain income, or land this job, or change careers, that is a conscious-minded thought, and perhaps even goal, right. And then there's that other stuff underneath all the layers of it, which is our unconscious mind, your conscious minds the goal-getter, it's the one that sets the goal, your unconscious minds, excuse me, your unconscious mind, I said that backward, your conscious mind the goal setter, it sets the goal, your unconscious minds the goal-getter, it gets the goal. Everything that we do, all of our beliefs, habits, behaviors, and programming 95% of all of that is unconsciously driven.

Lindsay 08:52

95% of that are We are not even aware of what we're doing.

Joanie 08:56

95% of everything we do is unconsciously driven. And that includes our behaviors, beliefs, behaviors, habits, and programming. Yes, I percent is just conscious mind. So when we conscious mind ourselves into our job, our dream job or career or whatever it is that we say we want, we're working with the wrong part of our mind.

Lindsay 09:15

I love this. Okay, so heal the unconscious and then the conscious you can create the reality that you're desiring.

Joanie 09:22

Heal that heal the past, let's say it that way heal that. Because what we can do is we can reframe that event that was actually a neutral event. We gave it meaning at the unconscious level. And some people say no, it was a horrible event. I get it. What if we could believe there were some positive learnings? What if there was some wisdom in that event, right? And that we can reframe our unconscious mind that may have turned on some coping mechanisms and coping behaviors because your unconscious minds job one of its main jobs, let's say it's probably the primary job is to keep your body alive to preserve you. And if it feels like there's something in You're in a threat that you're licensed threat, it develops coping mechanisms and behaviors and for some people and reject those if it doesn't apply. And I say that because I'm very conscious and careful of what I install in your audience's minds because NLP is that powerful. And words are that powerful. Okay, so reject this if it doesn't apply. But what can happen is that we can install things at a deeper level that, that don't serve us, right? Like we can get unconscious coping behaviors such as shut down or, you know, if you shut down when something feels difficult, or for example, you run away, you get right up to the end, right, like I always get right up to the end. And then that last interview, or something, well, that it could be well, I want to protect you your unconscious mind thinking, right? I mean, in its role than it does in its own way. And so it creates these unconscious behaviors. So yes, we get to be free and clear of our past and resolve that unresolved trauma, and the negative emotions of our past that are informing our future.

Lindsay 11:01

I love this so much. So I'm going to ask you for, one thing for my audience. They're on to sending their career intentionally designing their career, their life that they really truly want. What's the one thing you would say that using the NLP idea that they tap into to enhance their success?

Joanie 11:20

Ooh, so so so good, let's the number one thing is because your unconscious mind is your goal-getter. You've got to be 100%, clear, and certain on what you want any ambiguity, you will not get it. your unconscious mind needs, sir, it needs clarity. And it needs you to believe that and to focus on that certainty. So get clear on what specifically you want, and get an internal representation of that thing, right. When you think of that job that you want to do you have a picture. And when you do, you can play with what we call the submodalities of that the visuals of that the auditory the feelings that are inside, turn that up and make it feel so freakin good. That when you go into that job, or even for the job interview, you can do this for and if it didn't feel good, well guess what you get to make it feel good. You can turn up the colors, you can bring in powerful kinesthetics that something that feels really good. And hearing even some internal self-talk of you've got this or whatever those words are for you. So focus on what you want Lindsay get hyper clear on what specifically you want, your behavior will then ensue. And the result you will get.

Lindsay 12:35

Oh, I love this so much. And I'm going to tell you the first two modules of mine are market-building mindsets. How do you become marketable and the second one is career clarity? So those exactly around we have to have the right mindset and we have to be really clear about the vision that we're going after if we're clear. Oh, I love this. Jody, thank you so much. Now people want to connect with you. They want to learn more How can they do that?

Joanie 12:57

Thank you, Lindsay. They can go to NLP freedom.com that's NLP freedom calm we're giving away a clarity, focus, and vision blueprint to help them get clear specifically on what it is that they want. And they can also just go there to learn more about our training and programs and even book a call with us if they want more information.

Lindsay 13:17

This is amazing. Tony, thank you so much, my friend, for being here. I so appreciate you. My pleasure, Lindsay, so much fun. Thank you so much.