The Purpose of Your Marriage

Dad Tired

In this episode, Jerrad Lopes dives into the heart of Ephesians 5:25, exploring what it truly means for husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church. Through powerful personal stories, practical insights, and deep theological truths, Jerrad challenges men to go beyond surface-level love and embrace a sacrificial, unconditional, and servant-hearted approach to marriage. This episode is packed with spiritual insights and practical takeaways to help husbands lead their wives well—emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

Key Scripture References:

• Ephesians 5:25 – "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."
• John 10:11 – "I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep."
• Romans 5:8 – "God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us."
• Colossians 3:13 – "Forgiving each other as the Lord has forgiven you."
• John 10:28-30 – "I give them eternal life, and they will never perish, and no one will snatch them out of my hand."

Chapters & Timestamps:

[0:00] - Welcome & Dad Tired Retreat Recap
Jerrad opens the episode by sharing the impact of the recent Dad Tired retreat, recounting powerful testimonies of how God is moving through the community of men. He discusses how a viral video from the retreat went on to inspire men all over the world.

[09:30] - Loving Our Wives Like Christ Loves the Church
The main theme of the episode kicks off as Jerrad reflects on the command in Ephesians 5:25 for husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church. He shares personal stories about his early years of marriage and what he's learned about deepening intimacy through sacrifice and forgiveness.

[14:00] - Intimacy Beyond Physical Connection
Jerrad discusses how intimacy in marriage grows beyond the physical and becomes more about emotional and spiritual connection. He stresses the importance of being truly known by your spouse and creating a deeper bond through years of shared experiences.

[19:00] - Theology of Marriage
Exploring the biblical foundation of marriage, Jerrad explains why marriage is meant to be a reflection of God’s love for us. He breaks down what it means to mirror God’s sacrificial, unconditional love in the marriage relationship.

[23:30] - Sacrificial Love in Marriage
Drawing from scriptures like John 10:11 and Romans 5:8, Jerrad emphasizes the importance of husbands prioritizing their wives' needs and sacrificing their own comfort for their wives' well-being. He shares examples from his own marriage of what this looks like in everyday life.

[28:30] - Unconditional Love & Forgiveness
Jerrad delves into the challenges of loving unconditionally and forgiving consistently, even in the hardest seasons of marriage. He references Colossians 3:13 and John 10:28-30, offering practical advice on how to let go of grudges and truly forgive like Christ forgives.

[35:00] - Spiritual Leadership in Marriage
One of the key points in this episode is the role of the husband as the spiritual leader. Jerrad talks about nurturing his wife’s spiritual growth and how leading spiritually involves more than just teaching—it’s about encouraging and walking alongside your wife in her faith journey.

[37:30] - The Servant-Hearted Husband
Drawing from John 13, where Jesus washes the disciples' feet, Jerrad challenges men to embrace servant leadership in their homes. He gives practical examples of what it looks like to serve your wife humbly in everyday life, from doing the dishes to handling the bedtime routine.

[40:15] - Protecting Your Wife Emotionally & Spiritually
Jerrad explains the importance of protecting your wife, not just physically but emotionally and spiritually as well. He shares personal struggles he’s faced in his marriage and how he’s grown to ensure that his wife feels emotionally safe with him.

[45:00] - Practical Declarations for Husbands
To close the episode, Jerrad leads listeners through powerful declarations based on scripture. He encourages husbands to affirm their commitment to loving their wives sacrificially, unconditionally, and faithfully, just as Christ loves the church.

Call to Action:
Reflect on the scriptural declarations shared during this episode and take time to affirm your love and commitment to your wife, following Christ’s example. To further engage with the Dad Tired community, visit dadtired.com and consider partnering with the ministry.