Dave & Ann's Conflict Cycle: Debra Fileta

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Is conflict always bad? Dave and Ann Wilson discuss their marriage conflict cycle and underlying issues as guests on Debra Fileta's podcast, "Talk To Me."

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Connect with Debra Fileta and catch more of their thoughts at debrafileta.com, and on Insta @debrafileta and catch other episodes on FamilyLife Today. Also, check out her podcast, "Talk to Me."
Grab your copy of Dave & Ann Wilson's book, Vertical Marriage, here.
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Dave & Ann's Conflict Cycle: Debra Fileta

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Is conflict always bad? Dave and Ann Wilson discuss their marriage conflict cycle and underlying issues as guests on Debra Fileta's podcast, "Talk To Me."

Show Notes and Resources

Connect with Debra Fileta and catch more of their thoughts at debrafileta.com, and on Insta @debrafileta and catch other episodes on FamilyLife Today. Also, check out her podcast, "Talk to Me."
Grab your copy of Dave & Ann Wilson's book, Vertical Marriage, here.
Don't miss out on FamilyLife's amazing sale: Weekend to Remember gift cards are half off and devotionals are discounted from Nov. 18 to Dec. 2 at shop.familylife.com!
Find resources from this podcast at shop.familylife.com.
See resources from our past podcasts.
Find more content and resources on the FamilyLife's app!
Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify.
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