Week Five: Therapists for $400, Alex

I Think I Love You

Unfortunately, there's a dead baby joke in this one. We also overshoot our quota of saying "lived experience" by 10. But there's also some really helpful stuff, liberally cribbed from Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, the authors of The Courage to Be Disliked (https://amzn.to/2wvL07v), who did the same from Alfred Adler, a contemporary of Freud and Jung. Caveats that (1) obviously this isn't a paid promotion, and (2) while it presents as a self-help book (and I suppose it is) it's narrative based, like a Buddhist fable, and grounded in a "real" school of psychology, so it feels less fluffy than what I imagine self-help books to be.

• (04:24) I get on my high horse about The Courage to Be Disliked (and you mix up "cache" and "cachet" Caroline)
• (06:25) Corgi tail cropping
• (15:30) We discuss Caroline's writing, and her desire to find a therapist
• (18:06) In fact, the direction of someone's gaze does not indicate whether they are telling the truth or not (https://bit.ly/2QT7hDc)
• (32:00) Individual fulfillment is an important piece of a healthy relationship
• (35:00) Caroline digs a little deeper on finding a therapist
• (51:00) Lessons on how to stay in love for Week 5

Thanks for listening. If any of this hits home for you or sparks a conversation between you and your partner, we'd love to hear from you. Find us on Instagram @caroclaireburke or @ri_soserious.

- Riley

Acknowledgments

Thanks as always to our wonderful family and friends who have helped along the way. Specifically, our muse @floriandelomme for his generosity in allowing us the use of his Tulum sunset in our cover art; @anka1027 for her knowledge of all things podcasting; her renaissance husband @gnarliehewson for our highly rad intro music; and, of course, @mollylophotography and @edwardslater, whose empathy and talent are on display in every photo of our wedding (and could be for yours—message them directly or visit their website).