32: How to Avoid Fighting with Your Partner Over the Holidays

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The holidays can be a time of joy, but they can also be a time of stress—especially for couples. In this episode, Ellen shares why holiday conflicts happen, the hidden risks that can quietly undermine your relationship, and 5 practical strategies you can use to avoid fighting and stay connected with your partner during this busy season. Whether it’s money stress, family drama, or unmet expectations, you’ll walk away with tools to navigate the holidays with more peace and connection.

Part 1: The 8 Major Causes of Holiday Conflict

Ellen breaks down the top reasons couples fight during the holidays, including:

• Money: How differing spending habits can create tension.
• Family Dynamics: Navigating extended family expectations and obligations.
• Religious Differences: Balancing beliefs about how to celebrate.
• Political Differences: When core values clash.
• Conflicting Priorities: Misalignment on how to spend time.
• Unmet Expectations: Disappointments when reality doesn’t match ideals.
• Boredom with Holiday Traditions: Balancing new ideas and old favorites.
• Unresolved Relationship Issues: How pre-existing tensions escalate during the season.

Part 2: The Hidden Risks That Fly Under the Radar

Ellen explores three sneaky risks that can quietly damage your relationship over the holidays:

• Overindulgence: How drinking, eating, or other excesses can amplify tensions.
• Unhealthy Coping Strategies: Avoidance tactics like burying yourself in work or escaping into hobbies.
• Infidelity: Why feelings of disconnection or loneliness can heighten the risk during this time of year.

Part 3: Practical Strategies for Avoiding Holiday Fighting

Ellen shares a tactical approach to de-escalating conflict and fostering connection during the holidays. The 5 strategies include:

1. Lay the Foundation with Clear Priorities: Align on expectations before the holidays begin.
2. Address Stress Before It Escalates: Check in with yourself and your partner regularly.
3. Revisit Expectations During the Holidays: Be flexible and adapt plans as needed.
4. Solve the Conflict in the Moment: De-escalate quickly with tactical steps like acknowledging emotions and setting boundaries.
5. Reconnect and Rebuild: Schedule intentional alone time to repair and strengthen your bond.

Key Takeaways:

1. The holidays amplify relationship stressors like money, family dynamics, and unmet expectations. Recognizing these triggers can help you navigate them better.
2. Hidden risks like unhealthy coping mechanisms and infidelity can quietly erode your relationship if left unchecked.
3. Practical, tactical strategies can help you avoid fighting, de-escalate conflicts, and stay connected during the holiday season.

Call to Action:

If holiday stress is impacting your relationship, Ellen invites you to book a free Relationship Reset Call to brainstorm solutions and reconnect with your partner. Visit her calendar link below to schedule.

Closing Thoughts:

The holidays don’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. What matters most is how you handle the inevitable stress—with attentiveness, intention, and honor. Remember, you chose each other for a reason, and even in tough moments, there’s a path forward to repair and connection.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. For personalized guidance on a specific situation, set up a time for a free Relationship Reset Call via her calendar link.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

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