MPF 308: The Power of Asking for Forgiveness

Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family

“Genuine humility never disturbs the soul. Rather it is accompanied by peace, joy and calm” St. Theresa of Avila

Summary

What is the biggest problem in Catholic marriages? Although we appreciate good communication tools, marriage insights, and mentors - at the end of the day the biggest problem is simply a lack of holiness. One essential tool in our quest for holiness is learning how to ask for forgiveness. When we have conflict in our home, we all need to ask ourselves the question - what could I have done differently? When we take ownership in this way, we can repent to God and then ask forgiveness of our spouse or children in order to repair that relationship. Often we will focus only on our sins and try to amend our lives, but in addition to those good things, we also need to seek to reconcile the relationship and ask for forgiveness.

Key Takeaways

• When there is conflict in the home, we always need to ask ourselves how have I contributed to this situation and what could I have done differently?

• Taking extreme ownership means that you don’t make excuses, but instead recognize that the past does not have power over you any more. You always have a choice.

• When you are aware of your weakness, you are more open to asking for forgiveness and growing in holiness

• Asking forgiveness also repairs the rupture in the relationship that happens as a result of our actions.

• When you ask forgiveness and make your heart pure through Confession, then you are able to more clearly see God. “The pure in heart shall see God” Matt 5:8

• A daily examen should include asking for forgiveness of family members we have sinned against.

Couple Discussion Questions

• Reflect on your marriage and children and ask God to show you areas in which you need to change. Go to your spouse and children and ask their forgiveness.

• When can we do a daily examen in our household? How can we incorporate regular asking of forgiveness?

References:

Dealing with Failure podcast: MPF 140

Forgiveness MP 060

Forgiveness and Transformation MFP 165

Romans 12

Matthew 18:21-35

Guide to Parenthood: Forgiveness in the Family