Marriage and Money Conflict: How to Work Through the Tough Stuff

Modern Husbands Podcast

Welcome to the Modern Husbands podcast, where any combination of Dr. Bruce Ross, Christian Sherrill, and Brian Page host national experts who share winning ideas to manage money and the home as a team.
Today we are going to talk with Ashley Quamme about marriage and money conflict: how to work through the tough stuff.
Ashley has been a couple’s therapist for well over a decade. She holds a Master of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy, a graduate certificate in Financial Therapy, and holds designations as a Certified Financial Behavior Specialist® and Certified Financial Therapist-Practitioner.
Questions
00:00 Introduction
00:45 Let’s say you want to change some bad financial decisions being made in the marriage, but your spouse doesn’t. How do you engage the unengaged partner?
08:07 Nobody wants to argue about money in their marriage, but sometimes doing something about it is difficult. How do you motivate clients to take action through conversation?
12:18 Money is emotional, and it can be hard to look at life through the lens of someone else when you’re frustrated yourself. In that case, what are some tools you can use to improve empathy and your own active listening skills?
16:11 It is not uncommon for a saver and a spender to marry one another. How do you address the saver/spender dynamic in marriage?
22:05 Financial infidelity, that is intentionally deceiving your partner about money, is a problem in nearly half of marriages. Walk us through how couples can navigate the problems that arise from financial infidelity.
25:41 Tell us about your new podcast!
27:48 What is one piece of simple and actionable advice listeners can use today?
Resources
Brene Brown on Empathy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZBTYViDPlQ
Beyond the Plan Podcast: https://www.beyondthefp.com/

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Capitole

1. Introduction (00:00:00)

2. Let’s say you want to change some bad financial decisions being made in the marriage, but your spouse doesn’t. How do you engage the unengaged partner? (00:00:45)

3. Nobody wants to argue about money in their marriage, but sometimes doing something about it is difficult. How do you motivate clients to take action through conversation? (00:08:07)

4. Money is emotional, and it can be hard to look at life through the lens of someone else when you’re frustrated yourself. In that case, what are some tools you can use to improve empathy and your own active listening skills? (00:12:18)

5. It is not uncommon for a saver and a spender to marry one another. How do you address the saver/spender dynamic in marriage? (00:16:11)

6. Financial infidelity, that is intentionally deceiving your partner about money, is a problem in nearly half of marriages. Walk us through how couples can navigate the problems that arise from financial infidelity. (00:22:05)

7. Tell us about your new podcast! (00:25:41)

8. What is one piece of simple and actionable advice listeners can use today? (00:27:48)