This feels very familiar

The Bind with Greg Flynn

I was a bit surprised that a rom-com would help me frame up this week’s episode. But I couldn’t stop thinking about it after watching it last week. It was an obvious way to move from last week’s topic: Foundation #2 - We can’t escape these tiny boxes alone, to this week’s.

Foundation #3 is a edgy one for me. For most of us, probably. In fact, it feels a bit edgy to put this one out there. But that’s probably appropriate. Why? Because Foundation #3 is: Vulnerability is the strength we need.

How do you work on building this muscle? I’d love to hear!

As I always say, it’s my hope that this is just one side of a conversation. Please hit me up - [email protected] or @men.connecting on IG - with your thoughts, questions, challenges. Let’s get into it together!

Links for things mentioned in this episode:

bell hooks - Author and activist who wrote a lot on issues of race and social justice.

The Will to Change, by bell hooks - hooks’ seminal book on masculinity. A must read for anyone engaged in this work.

Alok Vaid-Menon - Artist, activist, and performer that is taking the gender binary head on.

Alok on the Man Enough Podcast - This is a great example of their POV on masculinity and gender in general. Highly recommend.

Terry Real - Therapist and coach who has done some great work around masculinity.

I Don’t Want To Talk About It by Terry Real - A must read for anyone working with men (as well as for men in general).

Ijeoma Oluo - Author and activist who’s voice is making a huge impact on issues related to race.

Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male Identity - Oluo’s amazing book on the white-male identity in the the US and the West in general. A must read.

Bros - Rom-com staring Billy Eichner and Luke Macfarlane, two gay men on their falling-in-love journey.

Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music

Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music