Ep. 40 Kylie Thomas - You are not alone: Finding comfort and peace in the pain of miscarriage

The Full Life Podcast with Melanie Lynam

Kylie together with her husband Shane and their four kids live on the Gold Coast. She is a Mum of teenagers, a carer for her parents and a Chaplin for Queensland Police Service. Kylie and Shane’s story of creating a family is both beautiful and heartbreaking, with six miscarriages along the way.

Kylie shares her own experience of dealing with the grief of losing her babies and the very unique way that Kylie and Shane dedicated their babies to the Lord and honoured their memories.

We talk about how men and women grieve differently and having patience for each other and giving yourself permission to be yourself.

Kylie has some real insight into grief and also some beautiful truths to comfort, encourage and bring you hope.

The main message that we want to share with you today is you are not alone.

If you have someone in your life who is walking through the painful journey of miscarriage right now I would encourage you to please share this episode with them. I know it will be a huge blessing to them.

Even though she had her baby, she was still grieving the baby she had lost.

Grief never leaves you. It comes in waves and it’s unexpected you just have to allow it to wash over you. you can’t fight grief.

“I would picture them a lot. I would see their faces.”

“I knew they were real, I knew they were there, I knew they existed, I knew their names.”

“It’s hard to process this journey of loss because they were real, they are gone, and they are now in a better place. And it sounds cliche to say that, but I know that I know that it’s true. I know that they’re alive, I know that they’re in Heaven, and I know that I’m going to meet them one day.”

“My children have grown up knowing that they have six siblings that they will meet one day in Heaven.”

Did you ever feel mad at God? “I was on my knees banging my fists on the ground”

When asked how she resolved her feelings of why and anger “I just gave myself permission to be myself.”

Isaiah 55:9 “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

“I had the revelation that His ways are higher than my ways and His thoughts are higher than my thoughts and that I had to trust the eternal picture.”

You’re not alone.

"God longs to give us the desires of our hearts. He created us to have family. It’s His desire that we desire a baby. He put that in us."

"He has it all in his hands."

“What I know about God now that I have experienced all these things, is that He loves me.”

Psalm 91

"It’s all for a purpose. Some of it I will not find out until eternity."