The Ugly Duckling Diary podcast

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Great short Bonus Show for all our loyal podcast fans. This week a tremendous comedy team shares comedy and music...it's "Mack & Jamie" , stars of TV's "Comedy Break"; sharing loads of musical humor. Enjoy!

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Welcome to The Ugly Duckling Diary (formerly SwanWaters Healing Podcast) where I, Mags Thomson, will be reading to you from my book! The Ugly Duckling Diary invites you to explore emotional abuse as I recount my own experiences and help you make sense of this power dynamic. This book is a potent combination of powerful storytelling and practical resources and although this may feel like a heavy topic, there will be plenty of giggles along the way because I am here to uplift my fellow survivors and help them find life beyond abuse

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The Ugly Duckling Diary

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#Self-Improvement #Mags Thomson #I Talk #Podcasting Education

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Understanding Emotional Abuse 22:01

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Hi there! I am Mags, the author of The Ugly Duckling Diary. I have decided to read you my book! Want to read along (or ahead)? Get your copy of The Ugly Duckling Diary on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ugly-Duckling-Diary-Understanding-Overcoming-ebook/dp/B0B8DW599D/

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The Parental Prequel 19:55

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The Letter on the Kitchen Table 15:59

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First Things First 18:01

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Coming Soon: The Ugly Duckling Diary Podcast! 4:38

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Hi there! I am Mags, one of the original co-founders of SwanWaters and the author or The Ugly Duckling Diary. I have decided to read you my book! Subscribe to have the first chapter delivered to your feed next week! Want to read along (or ahead)? Get your copy of The Ugly Duckling Diary on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ugly-Duckling-Diary-Understanding-Overcoming-ebook/dp/B0B8DW599D/…

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Identified Patient 58:49

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In this podcast from 26 August 2015, we delve into the concept of the Identified Patient . The term is used in family therapy to describe the situation where one family member is labelled as "the problem child", and has all of the family issues projected onto them. The identified patient is also often the person that looks for external help or shows the first outwardly signs of inner-turmoil. Stephen Bach and Mags (under her previous screen name Monkey) look at this phenomenon from their own experiences and discuss how a similar situation can occur in other toxic settings too.…

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How Does Resilience Help With Life's Big Stuff? 42:12

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Resiliency Essentials: Resiliency is our ability to deal with BIG Stuff. We create more successful outcomes the more resilient we are, despite the obstacles and heartaches we all face in life. Originally recorded in June 2016 As survivors of abuse, we sometimes feel we have to beat a lot of odds... I know that sometimes we feel so overwhelmed by life's circumstances that to the rational mind seem marginal, that we want to just give up. Because the prospect of even those small hurdles makes us remember the huge task of healing that lies in front of us. It makes us feel that we will never be able to deal with life's big stuff, the complications that every life knows and every person has to face. Develop resilience and be brave. There are days when it is very discouraging. You have to develop personal resilience to environmental things that come along. If you let every single environmental challenge knock you off your game, it's going to be very, very hard. Renee James In today's podcast, I speak with Michael Ballard about resilience. How we can train ourselves to become more resilient, and how those skills will help take the edges of the big and small issues we face on our path. About Michael Ballard: Michael is an author, speaker, trainer, and consultant. He travels the world helping people learn how to add more resilience into their lives at home, work and community. Michael specialises in helping people, families, organisations and communities learn how to thrive with resiliency. Resilience is a process, a set of key assets, skills and beliefs that can change our lives. Resiliency can change the quality of our journey and often the quality of the outcomes. Connect with Michael on Twitter and Facebook or check his website www.ResiliencyforLife.com for more information. Resources: Michael asked to make these resources available to help you with your resilience journey. Resiliency Essentials - Resiliency is our ability to deal with BIG Stuff. We create more successful outcomes the more resilient we are, despite the obstacles and heartaches we all face in life. Turmoil Breathing - Turmoil breathing is a process and skill set for staying calm and clearheaded during very challenging situations. More breathing/meditative resources by Michael are available here. Self-Leadership Skills Model - Phase 1 | Phase 2…

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Building Confidence and Courage 8:02

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In today's episode I respond to a quote I found recently: “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.” Dale Carnegie - Fear and insecurity can freeze us into place - Fear will not go away by staring at it - You can start with the smallest possible steps - Being successful at the small steps starts building your confidence…

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How Mags Realised Her Family Was Abusive 30:44

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I recorded this 30-minute podcast a few years ago. In it, I share my own story of becoming conscious of the abusive situation I was in, and how that lead me to cut all contact with my family. Want to learn more about escaping an abusive situation? Check out this free Healing Academy module: https://swanwaters.com/preparing-escape-abuse/…

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Co-Parenting with a Toxic Person - Part 2 29:36

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This podcast was originally recorded in 2015. This is part 2 of 2. Being a parent is never an easy thing to do, and co-parenting after a divorce is even harder. But co-parenting with a toxic person? It is probably impossible... Still, there are ways in which you can make the best of an extremely difficult situation. Aubrey Cole and Stephen , who we first met in their podcast about toxic romance , share their experiences. They highlight some of the challenges co-parenting with a toxic ex and give hand-holds on how to meet these challenges.…

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Co-Parenting with a Toxic Person - Part 1 33:08

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This podcast was originally recorded in 2015, and is part 1 of 2. Being a parent is never an easy thing to do, and co-parenting after a divorce is even harder. But co-parenting with a toxic person? It is probably impossible... Still, there are ways in which you can make the best of an extremely difficult situation. Aubrey Cole and Stephen , who we first met in their podcast about toxic romance , share their experiences. They highlight some of the challenges co-parenting with a toxic ex and give hand-holds on how to meet these challenges.…

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E76 - Rewriting The Narrative 16:10

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When we are addressing triggers and trying to heal from traumatic experiences, we need to change the stories we tell ourselves. Have you ever had an extremely emotional response to something that turned out to be pretty trivial? Well, looking back at that moment, you can probably reconstruct the story you told yourself. They often go something like this: Better not forget my bag on the bus Yeah, you're going to forget that bag, and it's going to cause problems You can't be trusted even to bring along your husband's things See, you're a failure at EVERYTHING You are worthless! Or at least, that's how my brain would respond to such a thing happening. Of course, you won't forget the bag... but it's a rabbit hole. So, how do you stop that story of doom from running through your mind every time something unexpected happens? That's what today's podcast is about. Mags explains how you can change the stories that are triggered and create lasting change. Main Take-Aways: To change the stories, we have to address how we feel about our triggers. We cannot change from a place of fear. Desensitising is a great strategy, but we can't bully ourselves in that process Encouraging ourselves from a loving compassionate place means taking baby steps It also means celebrating all the progress we make…

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E75 - What Aubrey Learned About Managing Triggers 25:35

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In the PTSD module in The Healing Academy , I share strategies Aubrey taught me for coping with my triggers. She based those strategies on the work she did in The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook , a resource she still recommend to anyone dealing with PTSD and other high-stress situations. Here are five life-changing lessons Aubrey got from this book, and my (Mags) reaction and viewpoints on those. If you want to read along with Aubrey's writing, you can find it here: https://swanwaters.com/aubrey-learned-managing-triggers/…

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E74 An Introduction to PTSD and Toxic Relationships 1:04:03

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In this podcast Aubrey and Mags (under her previous screen name Monkey) talk about everything from what it is, to how it can manifest. Links to Resources: Effects of Domestic Violence by the Joyful Heart Foundation. And also important to remember is that “violence” does not have to include a physical violence. Remind yourself again of the Definition of Domestic Violence . The Podcast episode that Aubrey refers to at the beginning of this episode is here: https://swanwaters.com/adverse-childhood-experiences-affect-your-health-and-relationships/ Do you want to learn more about PTSD, how it can affect you and how you can cope with triggers and flashbacks? Check out the PTSD module in The SwanWaters Healing Academy: https://swanwaters.com/your-brain-on-ptsd/…

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E73 - Building A New Life 4:37

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