109 - Self-Compassion

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“It’s not you, it’s me.” That’s a common break-up line used by someone wishing to end a relationship. Instead of telling the other person how they feel and why they need to break up, they are showing compassion for the other person, by breaking it to them gently and taking the blame or taking responsibility for their part in the break-up.

In episode 109, Genny shared why she spoke about breaking up with someone, and suggested that perhaps we should break up with that part of ourselves; the part that isn’t working for us; that isn’t making us happy. She shared that when we do something wrong, we can be quick to blame ourselves, to berate ourselves, and basically, be mean to ourselves. We’re also quick to judge. Genny continued to say that sometimes, we not only overthink about a situation – assuming that something is wrong – but we start to ruminate, to internalize, even to project on something that we think might happen, and then we start to spiral out of control.

Genny shared that she went through a similar situation and reached out to her brother Ed, who not only managed to talk her down and explain to her what was happening, but suggested that she read the book, “Self-Compassion” – The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself - by Kristin Neff. This book made a huge difference to Genny and gave her the perspective to talk about it in this episode.

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