Forgive Yourself & Become Free, with Dewi Maile Lim

Say YES to Your Soul

In this podcast, Dewi Maile Lim joins host Tessa Lynne Alburn to discuss her personal journey of transformation and how she has learned to release attachments and “shoulds” to live authentically. Dewi talks about her experiences with a spiritual path, forgiveness, and the importance of trusting oneself. She shares a specific story about needing to forgive herself for not fulfilling a promise made to her father. Dewi emphasizes the power of being true to oneself and highlights the importance of trust and courage in navigating life's challenges.

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• Dewi’s inspiring journey from spiritual commitment to self-discovery
• Learn how to let go of past promises and commitments that no longer serve your authentic self.
• Forgiveness is a tool for self-liberation and embracing your inner innocence.
• Explore renegotiating your commitments to align with your true path.
• Releasing judgment and going on your courageous journey of self-discovery

About Dewi Maile Lim:

Dewi Maile Lim (“Day’-wee My-lay Lim”) helps guide trailblazing, luminary women to stand-out as thought leaders, build flourishing communities, grow partnerships and thrive during this time of great change on the planet.

As a Visionary Artist and Transformational Coach she works 1-to-1 and in groups and leads online and in-person workshops, masterminds and Painting Vision Quests.Dewi is Founder of New Earth Luminary and Rebel Heart Creatrixmind. She is passionate about the intersection of creativity, consciousness expansion, sovereign living, and planetary awakening.

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Tessa Lynne Alburn believes that every woman has the ability to learn to express their true voice, be heard, and fulfill their dreams.

As a Feminine Energy Coach and Soul Connection Mentor for women, Tessa supports you in having the freedom you crave and strong connections with others, as you live powerfully with joy and a sense of adventure.

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Transcript

Tessa (00:11):

Aloha. Today, I have a lovely woman who is here to enlighten us to have some fun. I know for sure she's always fun to be with and inspiring, creative....her name is Dewi Maile Lim and she helps to guide trailblazing, luminary women to stand out as thought leaders, build flourishing communities, grow partnerships, and to thrive during this time of great change on the planet. And as a visionary artist and transformational coach, she works one-to-one and in groups, and she leads a lot of things online and in person workshops as well. She does masterminds and painting vision quests. And Dewi is the founder of the New Earth. Luminary and Rebel Heart creatrix mind. She's passionate about the intersection of creativity, consciousness, expansion, sovereign living, and planetary awakening. So Dewi, I am so glad to have you here. My aloha sister. Welcome to Say Yes to your soul.

Dewi (01:26):

Hmm. I say yes and thank you. Thank you Mahalo, and aloha everyone. And Tessa's beautiful community. I'm so grateful and honored to be here with you.

Tessa (01:39):

Well, we're excited. And we were, you know, you and I have been getting to know each other more and more over the last few years, and every time I hear about some part of your journey, I'm like, oh yeah, that's so great. I can't wait to have her on my show, . And so I know you've got kind of a big personal story around something you'd been focusing on and focusing on, and then you had a big breakthrough around it. And so I'd love for you to just go ahead and share that part of your story with us, Dewi.

Dewi (02:12):

Yes. So I'm originally born and raised in Hilo, Hawaii, and that is where I'm currently based. And I did live for about 20 years off island. First in California for college. And then I wanted to live in a big city and I chose New York City. And through that time of living in New York, I was actually even bi-coastal. I did my first spiritual training through a university called the University of Santa Monica. And I got my master in spiritual psychology in 2004. And I was one of the younger people at the time in the group. I was in my twenties. And shortly after that, or during the time of that program, it was really an awakening, a time of awakening for me. One of my awakening times. And I met a spiritual teacher in New York City through a friend who she realized she had anger issues and she started going to meditation.

(03:20):

And she told me about the meditations and I was like, starting to get into yoga. And so I started going to this meditation center in New York. Fast forward, you know, 13 years later, I was an ordained minister with that particular organization. And I had decided to join the seminary and get my master in Divinity, which would've been my second master at this point, with a spiritual focus. And five years into that experience, I literally got sick and this was a time where I was working hard to try and get the thesis abound and shipped off. I had already gotten the written part approved. But yeah, my health just started to go down. And at the third time of the, trying to get it printed the third time, 'cause it had like media in it, I created a whole online show with my spiritual teacher about, um, the teachings.

(04:32):

And it was like my first push to create content online. I had 10 episodes and it actually, I believe it still airs now to this day on cable access in New York City.

Tessa (04:45):

And Oh my goodness, that's incredible.

Dewi (04:48):

Yeah. Yeah. That was a part of it. And so this thesis was the written part about this journey. So it already like basically got all of the content shipped and it was already out there. And I realized, you know, I took a break at that point because I was trying to get it done by the end of the year. I got sick, I took a break. And I realized in that process when I was back in home in Hawaii, 'cause I would always come back for the winters that my reasoning for finishing the program and finishing the degree was just because I started it and I should finish it.

(05:31):

And there was a should in there that I became very aware of like, what, why do I even want to do this? You know, I didn't feel like I needed the degree. And so I decided to let it go. And I also let go with all of my involvement at the same time with the organization and just decided to really take time to reassess my life. And so that became like a four year, four and a half year next phase of my life. I was in a relationship.

Tessa (06:14):

As you were speaking just now, my eyes were tearing up because I mean, I understand the commitment and everything you must have been going through, first of all, to even choose something, right. To go to get your master's in divinity.

Dewi (06:38):

Yeah.

Tessa (06:38):

Or here it is so active and you know, you had to have been listening to yourself and you're working with your meditation teacher and all these things. And then going through the struggle of the content for the thesis, just over and over three times. I mean, that's a bit much. And then suddenly though, somehow you knew like, my heart's not in this. It's feeling like a should, like, tell us more about that. Like what were some of those signs and what was that moment like for you when you were like, oh, it's a should?

Dewi (07:15):

Yeah. Well, at the time I had gotten into a new relationship and he was very helpful for reflecting back to me. Just like, you know, not in a way where I just started to ask myself some questions, basically inspired by my partner at the time. And what I really started to look at was, yeah, just, you know, why am I doing this? You know, what's in it for me? And, you know, I believe that with my education, 'cause I've always been a consummate learner and I loved always being in programs and courses, and I just realized, like, even with saying yes to being a minister, it wasn't really something that I was like, Ooh, I wanna be a minister of this path. You know, it was like my teacher at the time was encouraging me to do it, and I didn't really, like, I did it because I believed because he asked me to.

(08:21):

And of course I have free will and I take full responsibility for that decision. But even with the joining the seminary and the, the ministerial process, like, it was like, well, this is the path I'm on and this is where it's leading and let me follow through. And then I was just like, no, I don't have to. Like, there was something that shifted in me where I just let go of any judgment about me stopping quitting, if you will. I mean, you could look at it as quitting, but I just decided it was no longer in alignment. And, the key was Tessa, that I didn't make a story about it.

Tessa (09:09):

Love that. That's beautiful.

Dewi (09:10):

Yeah, it was, I had to be free in myself with the decision that I was gonna be at peace with it. And that was really crucial for me. Like, I didn't make it mean anything about who I was or, and that actually has really stuck with me since then. Like I've been unraveling meaning around like stories and what it means about myself if like I don't follow through or, I've really released a lot of that additional, the weight that comes if something happens to us or, there's a point in our journey where it's like a pivotal moment and maybe we shift course and it's a completely different outcome than we would've expected. Like, and maybe it's an outcome that we wouldn't have preferred necessarily, but I really have become my own best advocate in that way where I'm not making myself wrong for any of my past, you know, and that was really a crucial moment for me when I decided to do that.

Tessa (10:21):

That's beautiful. So I'm hearing a couple of things between the lines here. So part of what you're saying is around not attaching to the identity of the learner or the one who achieves the degree or the one who is the, maybe even the apprentice or the mentee of the leader. So you were letting go of stories and meanings around doing, and you listened to yourself and you were also asking some really interesting questions, it sounds like along the lines of your values, right? Like what, why am I doing this and what does this actually mean to me? And at some point that all just fell away.

Dewi (11:23):

Yeah, yeah. It was a real time of kind of release. And I was doing a lot of work too with my family of origin. And it was interesting too, because even though I had been a part of that spiritual tradition for 13 years, I still had trauma from within my family history that to me was untouched. And it wasn't a focus to do the emotional work in that path. It was more like focus, focus above. Like don't, you know, if the feelings and the thoughts come up, like that was, it was a refocusing technique that I would do. And I still had that work to do. I still had work to do that was unhealed. And so that also was kind of a light bulb moment to me as well. Like, oh, like I am not actually quote as far along as I thought in terms of my own emotional maturity. And my nervous system around like the anger, sadness, and fear that I still had in my body that I was still experiencing. And so that was also like, oh, okay, like, let me focus here now. It was a shift in my own inner reference point of like what I then the inner work that I started to do from that point on shifted into more of this trauma release focus.

Tessa (13:04):

Well, that's amazing that you were able to, you were really conscious of what was happening and it wasn't the family way, the traditional way to directly look at those things. And you'd been, as you said, you looked above, like I'm imagining that's a reference to like looking to spirit. Yes?

Dewi (13:27):

Yeah. And, so the focusing point was on the upper part of the third eye. So it was like, you're going to that.

Tessa (