EP62 Limerence 101: How to Stop Obsessing and Start Healing After Divorce

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Hello Queen 👑

Have you ever found yourself obsessing over someone?

You’re not alone.

This week on The Divorce Chapter podcast, I’m diving into a topic that many of us have experienced but may not fully understand: limerence.

Limerence is that intense, almost obsessive desire for someone, often built on fantasy rather than reality, and it can seriously mess with your emotional healing after a divorce.

In this episode, I break down:

- What limerence is and how it differs from love. Spoiler alert: it’s not love; it’s obsession

- How limerence shows up after divorce.

- Why we get stuck in these patterns.

- 9 steps to break free from limerence.

If you’re struggling to move on from an ex or find yourself idealising someone new, this episode will help you understand why—and give you the tools to start healing.

These are the links to my references in the episode

Love and Limerence by OG Dorothy Tennov:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0812862864/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

Dr L/ Dr Tom Bellamy’s website and book Living with Limerence:

https://livingwithlimerence.com/what-is-limerence/

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B085RN5XGS/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

And whilst we’re talking empowerment through the shitshow, we’ve chosen November’s book over in the Divorce Book Club.

How to Heal a Broken Heart: From Rock Bottom to Reinvention *via ugly crying on the bathroom floor, by Rosie Green 💚

You can check out the book here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08GG7BC79/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

This is the story of Rosie's own divorce shitshow interspersed with advice, book recommendations and sprinkled throughout with humour.

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I CAN”T WAIT!

I’d love to have you join us for this one 📚

We start on 1 November 📚

Link to join below ⬇️

Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

Until next week then you absolute QUEEN 👑 sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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Capitole

1. What is Limerence? (00:00:00)

2. The Defining Features of Limerence (00:03:01)

3. Fuel on the Fire or Reframing the Ashes? (00:08:31)

4. Playing the Game of Dopamine (00:12:05)

5. The 9 Steps to Break Free from Limerence (00:16:54)

6. Extra Resources (00:24:36)