Deliberate Evolution: A Conversation with Dan Capello on Personal Growth and Success | Ep 91

The Social Chameleon Show

On this episode of Social Chameleon Show, we have a special guest, Dan Capello, who has an incredible journey of personal transformation to share with us. Dan went from burnout and being over 300 lbs. to running his first Spartan race and realizing that his family deserved more from him. As a chef, Dan found himself nourishing others but neglecting his own well-being. Now, he helps leaders and professionals regain control over their professional lives.

During the conversation, Dan delves into the importance of being deliberate in life and shares his own weight loss journey and the trauma that led to his unhealthy habits. The episode also explores the significance of open conversations about mental health and trauma. Dan's upcoming book, "Deliberate Evolution," is a focal point of the discussion.

The episode touches on various topics, including the importance of understanding one's values and priorities when setting goals and finding direction in life. It emphasizes the need to make rational decisions by analyzing thoughts and separating emotions from the process. Reacting without knowledge and preparation can lead to unfavorable outcomes, which is discussed in the context of a successful rowing team with a singular goal, value, and priority.

Dan highlights the idea of evolving and becoming the person needed to achieve goals, pushing past one's potential for growth and new opportunities. He emphasizes the importance of being compassionate yet stern with oneself, using the example of not repeating past mistakes, like going off a diet and eating a whole box of donuts.

The episode also dives into societal views on burnout, such as it being seen as a badge of honor, and the speaker's belief that many people never feel good enough. The importance of understanding values, priorities, and goals, as well as being in tune with oneself, is stressed. Distractions and the inability to handle responsibility and pressure are identified as barriers to becoming a leader.

Enjoy the episode!

00:00:14 Summary: Welcome to the social community show where Dan Capello shares his journey from burnout and being overweight to running a Spartan race. He discusses how his busy career affected his personal life and how he helps professionals regain control. Dan's book, "Deliberate Evolution," is also mentioned.

00:09:04 Martial arts caused knee pain for years.

00:12:54 Trauma affects reactions; finding purpose is key.

00:22:19 Distractions, leadership, character, addictions, attachment issues, trauma

00:26:54 People with issues attract damaged partners.

00:35:29 Bottled water costly, ultra-refined, poisoned society.

00:36:53 Privileged perspective on abundance, victim mentality, control.

00:47:54 Self-leadership key to strong society, beware weakness.

00:53:48 Control yourself to protect and heal others.

00:58:57 Hardship, depression, trauma - chef's career ends.

01:10:19 Decisions can be lessons if we learn from them. Many people lack decisiveness and direction. Knowing our values and priorities is crucial. Writing down our thoughts helps gain clarity. Reacting is a result of surprise, while responding is thoughtful. The story of the English rowing team illustrates the power of focus and a single question. Evolving is necessary to reach new levels. Potential can be surpassed with effort.

01:19:53 Summarize: Write down your values, prioritize them, and align them with your goals. Communicate and be tough with yourself for self-improvement. Hard choices lead to an easy life.

01:27:32 Be strict, but also show yourself grace.

01:30:48 Teach perseverance through a simple ice bath.

01:40:07 Taking responsibility and owning your actions and choices.

01:46:13 Change your day, change your life.

01:50:24 Link for all, journey to the future.

Show Notes: http://www.thesocialchameleon.show/DanCapello

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