241. Love and Alcohol with Dr. Chavonne Part 1 of 3

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In this first episode of a three part series, I welcome my personal marriage coach, the brilliant Dr. Chavonne to discuss navigating relationships and alcohol change. We explore the complexities of relationships and how they can impact personal growth, especially when dealing with alcohol-related changes. Dr. Chavonne shares insights on making changes within a partnership, managing a partner's reactions, setting boundaries, and emphasizes the importance of running your own race when it comes to personal transformation. This episode is a note taker and goes beyond just intimate relationships

Key Takeaways:

1. Individual Journeys: Making changes related to alcohol should primarily be an individual journey, even within a partnership, as each person has their unique experiences and reasons for change.
2. Managing Partner's Reactions: When one partner starts making changes, the other may rebel or react differently. Patience and acceptance are crucial during the adjustment period.
3. Transitions and Boundaries: Recognize that transitions are part of personal growth. Setting boundaries and allowing an adjustment period can help maintain harmony in the relationship.
4. Tolerating Negative Emotion: It's essential to build the capacity to tolerate negative emotions without relying on changing circumstances entirely for emotional well-being.
5. Non-Attachment and Authenticity: When discussing changes with a partner, do so authentically but without attachment to their immediate understanding or acceptance, allowing them to process at their pace.

Don't miss the next two episodes where we dive even further into the dynamics of navigating love and alcohol. It's an opportunity to dive deeper into your relationship with yourself and your loved ones.
Please check out Dr. Chavonne and all of her amazing offerings including the episode Matthew and I recored for her podcast about our experience in her program, the Marriage Upgrade.
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